Beauty In the Eye of the Beholder

Today I would like to talk about the world's view on beauty, and how women all over the world feel the need to obtain this unrealistic image of themselves.

Now before you say this has nothing to do with Simple Life Fails and Success, I believe that truly loving who you are in every aspect of your life is a SUCCESS.

It took me years to even come close to accomplishing this, and I am still not completely finished with 100% loving myself. There are days that I wake up and think that I look "fat" or "ugly." I put these words in parentheses because these terms are based on opinions, and are not facts. From societies standards, I am a tall, skinny, plain looking woman. I am 5 foot 7 inches, and I am blessed with a fast metabolism. But I think I am beautiful.

Women need to stop looking to society to figure out how the measure up, and men need to stop subjecting women to this as well. I was blessed that my fiance loves my personality, and could care less if I was a 10 or not.

Now this post is not about dissing the women that like to put tons of make up on to look beautiful, or shame woman that love being their naturally fuller selves. This post is to say that every woman is beautiful no matter their size, their skin color, how much make up they wear, or how little they wear. We were all created differently by God, and we are meant to love ourselves just as He loves us.

There is nothing more beautiful to me than a woman with killer confidence. Own who you are and what you look like, and love yourself no matter what others think. I say this to my friends all the time when we are shopping or getting our hair done, or whatever we are doing. If they ask, "How does this look," my reply is always the same, "I love it, but you are the one that will be wearing it, so do you love it."

If you do not currently love yourself, then you need to figure out what it is about yourself that you don't love and ask yourself why you do not love that part of you. If your answer is because it does not fit in, then the problem isn't the body part, it is your mindset about that body part. This was the issue for me. I used to say that I was a "But Her Face," meaning that everything about me was great but my face. I had to learn that no amount of make up was going to change what my face looked like, and I am 100% against surgery. I finally realized that I was the
only person that hated that part of myself. I always got compliments that I had an amazing smile, or pretty eyes, but I didn't believe their compliments because I did not like those items myself.

It Josh that set me down one day and told me to stop all my bull crap about not liking myself. His exact words to me were, " I love you because you are confident, and you don't let anything stand in your way. That is the woman I want to marry, and to raise my children. Not the woman that is self conscience when she has nothing to worry about." It was in that moment that I realized he was right , and I wanted to be a strong and confident influence for our children one day. So from that day forward I have made it a point to love myself no matter what.

There are days that I love putting on tons of make up and going out with Josh. And then there are days that I don't put any make up on and I am just as happy on both days. I am going to be completely honest, and say it is not an easy thing to do, and it will take time to figure out. But it is definitely worth it in the end. You will not even realize how happier you will be.